This sounds like a good book, and I’m going to pick up a copy. I like the idea of (re)defining masculinity in a positive way, so the concept of celebrating virility sounds interesting. I’ve had a lot of tortured thoughts about this topic, being someone who loves, and has loved, quite a few men with serious problems that I could not help them with. I’ve tried to read about the differences between men who are healthy vs unhealthy, to help me understand them. I don’t fit neatly into the traditional gender roles, so that has often left me out to sea when interacting with men, some of whom were only familiar with certain Southern stereotypes of women, such as ‘the passive religious “good wife” vs the man-hating feminist.’ They often didn’t know what to think of me. One of the most unfortunate cultural side effects of feminism (in the popular understanding) is that it has gotten patriarchy, gender expression, and gender social function mixed up with personal realms like sexuality, hobbies, friends, etc. Crushing the patriarchy doesn’t mean I have to crush the men that I love. True love is when you want your friends and partners to fulfill their potential. Even this short video helped start to put some words to my experience, so thanks for that.
This sounds like a good book, and I’m going to pick up a copy. I like the idea of (re)defining masculinity in a positive way, so the concept of celebrating virility sounds interesting. I’ve had a lot of tortured thoughts about this topic, being someone who loves, and has loved, quite a few men with serious problems that I could not help them with. I’ve tried to read about the differences between men who are healthy vs unhealthy, to help me understand them. I don’t fit neatly into the traditional gender roles, so that has often left me out to sea when interacting with men, some of whom were only familiar with certain Southern stereotypes of women, such as ‘the passive religious “good wife” vs the man-hating feminist.’ They often didn’t know what to think of me. One of the most unfortunate cultural side effects of feminism (in the popular understanding) is that it has gotten patriarchy, gender expression, and gender social function mixed up with personal realms like sexuality, hobbies, friends, etc. Crushing the patriarchy doesn’t mean I have to crush the men that I love. True love is when you want your friends and partners to fulfill their potential. Even this short video helped start to put some words to my experience, so thanks for that.